Don’t be afraid to do the right thing

Don’t get tired of doing what is right. So often in our society it is easier to do the wrong thing, than to do the right thing. Recently at work we had an incident where a five year old was threatened if he spoke up. He was upstairs eating lunch, when three other children came along and started rummaging through bags. One bag belong to a teacher. One of the children removed money from it and shared it with the other kids. She then gave some money to the five-year-old told him if he spoke up about what he had seen, she would deal to him. The child was afraid, but he also wanted to do the right thing. He knew he was being watched and if he went to a teacher they would stop him. He quietly approach one of our staff and told them what happened. The whole situation was resolved and the teacher got her money back. This only happened because a 5 year old wasn’t afraid to do the right thing. All of us everyday find ourselves in situations where it is easier to do the wrong thing. It might be asked to lie for insurance claim or cheat on a test to get a good mark. Or simply look the other way, while someone does something wrong. My challenge this week is this; “Will you step up like the five year old and do the right thing, even if it is hard or may cost you”

“Don’t give up when you don’t succeed, try and try and try again”

I remember back in the late 80s, the first gas station in the world, where you were able to use your plastic card and pay for your petrol. It was a big deal. There was a lot of TV coverage. I was one of the first people to use it that day, as I worked across the rd. We live in a society, that expect everything to be instant. If we want cash, we put our piece of plastic into a machine and we can get the cash out or swipe our card and the value of money is then deducted instantly from our account. We walk up to McDonald’s and if we haven’t received our food within 60 to 100 seconds we consider it too slow. We go online looking for information and the computer runs a little bit slow we get angry and frustrated because we want it instantly. All of these things have been designed and made to make our life easier. There purpose was to free up our time, so we can do other things. However, it has changed the way we think and the way we expect life to be. For instance, we often have, the mental attitude that we should be instantly good at everything we do. That simply is not true. If we want to achieve anything in life it still takes hard work and practice. Want to lose weight? Despite what all the ads tell you, it won’t happen overnight and there is no wonder product. It takes hard work. You’re not instantly a good climber. It takes practice to learn lots of different techniques. It also takes practice to build up strength and endurance. Good things don’t always come instantly. They take hard work, practice and a lot of mental strength. Next time you get angry or frustrated because something hasn’t gone your way instantly, take a step back and ask yourself; What can I do to get better at this? Have I put the time in and practice in to expect a better result If we want to change things in our lives and better ourselves it won’t happen quickly. But it will happen if we persevere and get people around us to encourage and inspire us. “Don’t give up when you don’t succeed, try and try and try again”

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This person kept capsizing and could not paddle. By the end of the day they were racing their kayak and staying in it. They didn’t give up.

Coaching Tip

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This weeks tip uses a top rope. Pick route that is relatively easy for you. Climb it, climb it a second time using every 2nd hold. Then climb it a third time using every 3rd hold. If possible try it a fourth time using every 4th hold. Repeat on your next climb.

Don’t let the sun go down on your anger

  

In my last year at college I was the only boy in my Tutor group to pass. Three years later I saw my tutor teacher and she asked what I was doing now. I proudly told her I was an apprentice carpenter and I really enjoyed it. She looked at me and replied “is that all you are, I expected so much more from you.” I was devastated and really angry. Fast forward 3 more years. I had graduated as a teacher and my first job was in my old school. My teacher was still there and I couldn’t wait to tell her what I thought of her comment and rub in I was a teacher and a carpenter I had 2 careers and had done really well as a chippy. I laid awake all night thinking back to her comment 3 years ago. I got angrier and rang a thousand scenarios in my mind. I would put her in her place. The next day I went in and she wasn’t there. I laid awake the next night planning my revenge. Next morning still not there. This went on for another 2 nights. I became angrier and frustrated. I wanted her to know the hurt she had caused me. Finally on the 5th day I asked around to find out where she was. She was off sick, she had been diagnosed with a brain tumour. I felt sick and stupid. All this anger I had towards her seemed pointless. This poor woman, she had no idea about what I had been thinking or planning.

It got me thinking about a verse I had heard. Ephesians 4 v26. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger. I needed to forgive her. The way I was feeling, my lack of sleep, was all because I had fixated on my anger towards        my teacher. Once I forgave her I felt much better about the whole situation and myself. Next time you are angry about someone, forgive them before the sun goes down. You might feel the need to tell them direct, or say it quietly to yourself, or pray about it. You will feel and sleep a lot better once you let it go and move on. Remember “don’t let the sun go down on your anger.”

 

 

 

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Picture taken from the Tamaki Estuary while kayaking back fro a trip.

Through Failure Comes Growth

Through Failure Comes Growth.

When I was teaching, often we would come across tests and exams that had been left blank by a student. I would ask the student why did you not answer the question or questions. Their response was always the same. “I didn’t want to fail”. In their mind if it was left blank they hadn’t answered it and therefore they did not get it wrong and hadn’t failed. Of course they got zero and had failed.  Sadly most people are scared to fail. It’s a sign of weakness. The truth is we do our best learning when we fail. It can highlight our weaknesses and areas of our life that we need to work on. When we rock climb and fall off, we get back on the wall, try again and figure out what we did wrong and try and improve on it, or change how we approach the problem. We should apply the same principle to every area of our life. Every successful millionaire will tell you they failed several times before they succeeded. But they didn’t give up and they didn’t let failure stop them from trying. With failure comes growth. Don’t be scared to fail and you will continue to grow in knowledge and character.

After giving this message to the Hoppers last week I was forwarded a video by Will Smith. 

Check it out.  https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wFf6rhcYkXw&feature=youtu.be

Remember it is ok to fail. 

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I failed to secure this hold correctly and

 

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That was the end of my climb. Auckland Regionals 2018. 

Next Time

Climbing Tips

If you didn’t already know. We have a YouTube channel with different drills being demonstrated and descriptions of what to do on Facebook and Instagram. For quick easy access, download our app click on videos and it will take you directly to them. 

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Summer Events

Climbathon has been another successful event. If you haven’t handed your money in please give it to Darrin along with your sponsorship form. It was awesome to see so many parents get involved this year. This Saturday we have our Summer series bouldering cometition. All the details are on our Facebook page. We are also trying to post regular bouldering tips on our You Tube channel. This has had a few technical issues which we hope have been rectified. So make sure you check them out. When we do post one it will be describe on Instagram, with a link to You Tube shoeing the skill. Please bare with us as we sort out any kinks. If you are a Hopper or attend our gym regularly we would like to invite you to join us for our annual abseiling and caving day on the 16 Dec. Contact the gym for more details or check out the posts on our Facebook page.

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On Saturday 11th November, Glen Eden Extreme Edge started its annual Climbathon for Starship Hospital. This event runs over 4 days to allow as many Rock Hoppers to take part as possible.  Each participant is sponsored per climb or a donation. They are encouraged to do 25 or 50 or 75 climbs. For the really keen 100 climbs. All of the money raised goes to The Starship Foundation. A total of 16 Hoppers, 2 mums, and 1 dad took part on Saturday. Most had decided to do 50 or more climbs. On Monday 13th Nov the Monday Hoppers are taking up the challenge. Both classes have a second day, if they were unable to do the climbathon. Saturday Hoppers 18th Nov and Mondays class 20th Nov. When they have finished most participants would have climbed between 500m to 1000 m vertically.  We are hoping to raise $5000.00 towards medical equipment. Further donations can be made at the bucket in our reception desk. A big thank you to all the sponsors and the participants. We will keep you posted on the final tally.

 Some of the Hoppers climbing for the climbathon

Some of the Hoppers climbing for the climbathon

Starship Foundation

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Starship Foundation

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Darrin Worsfold gives us a first-hand account of his, and wife Roseanne’s journey as Starship parents, and how it has inspired their ongoing quest to give back to the national children’s hospital. To date the Worsfold family has raised more than $20,000 for the Starship Foundation. 


“Our long term association with Starship began 24 February in 1998, on day two of our eldest child Johnathan’s life when he was diagnosed with a bowel disease and transferred to Starship. The following four months were spent in hospital, as he underwent multiple operations and medical procedures.


This was our introduction to parenting!


Those early days were hard.  We lost contact with a lot of our friends and as a married couple we hardly saw each other as one or the other was with Johnathan.  The staff at Starship were always amazing.  The surgeons were always visiting and checking on us and other patients, even on their days off. The nurses became friends, particularly for my wife.  When we were discharged many visited us at home and looked after Johnathan so we could have a date.
Even in the years that followed we had regular long periods where we stayed in Starship.  Everyone, in every department always remembered Johnathan. 


Our Lego collection started with one small model – a therapeutic activity to help pass the long hours in hospital.  That was followed by a large competition prize of Star Wars products, and so the family collection began.  Countless hospital visits and recuperation periods have been spent Lego making.  It is a great stress relief for our family - especially father and son.


As parents we are so grateful for the Starship surgical teams’ innovative, life-saving surgery and their continued research into our child’s specific condition.  We also acknowledge the work of the nurses and related support staff, who work together as a team to improve the quality of Johnathan’s life.


In 2005 I wanted to say thank you to Starship.  The latest Star Wars movie was due out in a few weeks and I thought it would be a great idea to show some of my collection as a fundraiser.  My initial thought was to show it for a few days at the end of the year and try and time it for the video release.   While I was making inquiries to do this I was approached by a local art gallery who had had a show cancel.  They liked my idea, had a venue, and were ready to supply security and cover all the expenses of a display. There was one catch - I had to display it in five weeks. 

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At first I thought I could not pull it off as I had nothing made.  I decided to give it a go. Many late nights and a few friends’ help, I got all the models made and we were even able to create several scenes from the movies.  Before I knew it TV3 were involved, Play Station and even the movie distributors. 
Andrew Young, Chief Executive of the Starship Foundation at the time, came down and opened and that year we raised a little over $5,000 through gold coin donations.  Sadly we ended up back in Starship within hours of the opening.


From our perspective the biggest thing we achieved was raising the public’s awareness of the special people who work at Starship, who often give so much above and beyond the call of duty.
After that I decided to do small displays around Auckland - at school galas and Model Expo.  I never charged and always had a donation box for Starship.
In 2008 I built my own rock climbing gym.  A couple of years later I was approached by a young woman who had to do a fundraiser as part of her service to the community.  She knew I supported Starship and suggested a climb-athon where she would ask to be sponsored ‘per climb’ and she would attempt 100 climbs.  We organised the whole thing in a few days and a couple other kids, mine included, decided to join her, raising just over $700.  We have held the climb-athon every year since and with up to 20 kids involved.

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In 2016 I decided to show all my Star Wars Lego again.  It had nearly doubled in size since the first show.  We dedicated the entire top floor of my climbing gym to it. Entry was a gold coin donation.  We raised just over $4000 and Seven Sharp ran a story on it this time.
Over the years, through the Lego and the climb-athon, we have been able to give over $20,000 back to Starship.


Today Johnathan is 19. He has beaten the odds.  He still has visits to hospital, but none of the long stays as in the early years.  He has finished a level 5 computing qualification and like most teenagers is not really sure where to from here.  He loves to help people and is amazing with little kids, especially those with medical issues.  He still helps me with the Lego and loves computer games.  He would like to become a police officer in the future.  The thing that stands out for me is that he has a future, something that when we first went to Starship didn’t look possible.

This post was originally published at http://www.starshipstars.co.nz/grateful-parents-giving-back-through-dedicated-community

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